Amy Kingsley-Hughes

Actor. Writer. Filmmaker

Happiness – A decision, not a state

Because happiness is an emotion, it is often treated as just a state that we slip in and out of depending on what is going on in our lives and what thoughts are tumbling around in our heads, rather than a frame of mind.

I prefer to view happiness as a habit, a way of living. Living a happy life doesn’t mean being happy every minute or having everything you could want, it is a decision to hold a consciously positive attitude and try to bring happiness with you.

Sometimes, I can get very down and my mind can become clouded with negativity. Being honest, I was in such a place recently and have only just dragged myself free of it in recent weeks. It can be difficult, but it is worth it.

Most of the time, I consider myself a happy person who smiles and laughs a lot and truly enjoys life, and it’s a great way to live. But, sometimes it slips and I have to readjust my perspective again.

In truth, happiness can be obtained simply by allowing yourself to be happy, because it’s about embracing life with openness and accepting joy. Just thinking about that brings happy tears to my eyes as I write this – Just remembering that I can be happy whenever I really want to be is a marvellous freedom. Anyone can have it.

The Dalai Lama maintains that you can be happy even when you are sad and even when bad things are happening to you. He is a testament to that. He has suffered a lot of pain, but still remains a totally happy individual. He maintains that, even though he went through great pain, we was always happy and grateful for what he had. That sure is acceptance of happiness!

Try to make the effort to make your life a happy one, not through trying to force it but by thinking positively, and see how that changes your view. We will also be here to help every step of the way with the start of a new series on obtaining and nurturing happiness.

We hope you enjoy this series and learn a lot from the posts to come! x

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